THE LAST DITCH

Pat Nurse has a worrying post up at her blog. A professional colleague and his wife almost lost their children some years ago over unfounded allegations of abuse similar to those now faced by Pat's daughter. My colleague and his wife are wealthy, articulate and both qualified lawyers, yet still they struggled in the face of the state's unfailing assumption that only it may be trusted. I hope things work out well for Pat's family. They are in greater peril than she seems to know.

My own story of state malevolence is smaller, but perhaps equally telling. When Mrs P. died a certificate of the cause of death was signed (as required by law) by her doctor. I was politely asked to take it to the local authority's registrar so that the formal death certificate could be issued. The form itself was less polite however. It bluntly set out my duties as 'informant' and the penalties for non- (or imperfect) compliance. In the worst moment of my life, the British State was threatening me. You may say the system protects us all by allowing the investigation of suspicious deaths. I answer you thus; Dr Harold Shipman. Any system of certification, state-sponsored or otherwise, is only as good as the individuals signing the certificates.

In a daze, I attended the local Registry of Births, Marriages and Deaths the next morning. The receptionist, bless her heart, was a friendly, chirpy lady. I mention it as it's so unusual. I don't think I have experienced any other pleasant exchange with a state employee (apart from teachers) in 54 years as a British citizen. Have I been unlucky? You tell me. I have been out of Britain for twenty of those years so it's fair to say my sample of interactions includes an unusually high number of contacts with immigration officers. They were never pleasant and have been noticeably less so since Tony Blair gave them FBI-style badges to swagger about with.

The Registrar herself – an Eastern European immigrant with passable English – had fully mastered the British bureaucratic stance. Though near-strangers had been kind to me in my grief and though I was fresh from my wife's death bed with my eyes still red and swollen, she did not (unlike her nice receptionist) offer a word of condolence. Asked about my wife's occupation, I said she had been a teacher but not for many years and never liked it mentioned. At this, she offered to write 'housewife' – a word Mrs P. liked even less. I asked politely why it could not be left blank as Mrs P had been a lady of leisure. She ignored the question and wrote 'housewife'. Challenged on that, she wrote 'secondary school teacher.' I was too upset to argue.

In the package she sold me (for though certification is compulsory and for the state's convenience I had to pay the surly harridan a fee) was another government notice. This told me I must inform the Department of Social Security of my wife's demise (an institution she never once troubled in life). Why should the organs of the state communicate with each other, after all, when they can use the bereaved as messenger boys under threat of force?  I was ordered to find the nearest 'Jobcentre Plus' and deliver the completed form there. It took me a while to find her long-disused National Insurance number, but I complied yesterday. For all my protests, I obey the law you see. Perhaps if I obeyed less, it would trouble me less?

None of this palaver served the needs of my family or me. If there was no state certification of death (or birth or marriage) banks, insurance companies and other bodies would accept my affidavit accompanied by a letter, perhaps, from my doctor. But the state, as the story makes clear, is the boss of us. It owns our time, our service and our money. It can – and does – compel us to deploy them as it pleases so that it can keep perfect records of its herd of taxpaying cattle.

Some of my friends and family think me extreme when I declare that I have no greater enemy than the British state. Perhaps they are right; but it certainly does not use me as a friend. Thank goodness then for those friends (some of them unexpected) who have used me far, far better in my grief. In my distress I have learned once again that humanity is mostly good. If I were at the mercies of the state alone, I would have a very different impression and would be a sad wretch indeed.

12 responses to “The state is not your friend”

  1. carol42 Avatar
    carol42

    Nearly five years ago my husband collapsed at the top of the stairs and the fall caused a massive skull fracture which killed him 22 hours later. No cause for his collapse was found. The police called of couse when I was in a state of utter shock having been at the hospital until he died. but they were good. Of course there had to be an inquest and I must say the Coroner and his assistants were kindness itself. They made a very difficult situation bearable and helped in every way they could. So there are some good public servants, certainly in Huntingdon Cambs.

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  2. Tom Paine Avatar

    That’s good to hear. It’s worth noting though that coroners are sometimes part timers who have private professional practices, e.g. as lawyers. Maybe your man picked up habits of politeness when dealing with free clients? In the monopolistic public sector, ‘customers’ are inevitably at your mercy. They have nowhere to go, so why bother to be nice – seems to be the attitude – in my experience. I am glad yours differs.
    Why do you say though that “of course” there had to be an inquest? Yes, that’s what the law says now, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Unless the police have reasonable grounds to suspect foul play, I would argue that your late husband’s untimely death (as to which, please accept my condolences) was a matter only for his family. Death is hedged about with so many rules in this country, but most of them seem to be to do with keeping the tax and benefits records straight. If not for that, would the state give a damn if we live or die? I think not.
    In his speech to the Bundestag in Berlin today, the Pope quoted St Augustine as saying;
    “Without justice – what else is the State but a great band of robbers?”
    Exactly so. And every time the state robs me of a minute of my life or a penny of my earnings to serve its own purposes, not the genuine, lawful needs of my fellow citizens, that’s an injustice.

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  3. Charles_jsy Avatar

    Four years ago I was the executor of my father’s estate. The Jersey side of things wasn’t so bad (except for the lawyer who wanted to be paid for NOT being executor). However, when I tried to wrap up my father’s RAF pension I received an extremely rude letter from a “civil” servant about the trouble I was causing her, and what I was to do in the future. If it hadn’t been for my grief I would have replied to the effect that I would do my best to ensure my father would never pass away again.
    I was genuinely shocked by the tone and content of the letter. Looking up the number I didn’t have on her computer would have taken less time than writing that letter, but she took the time to make sure it was just this side of out-right abusive.

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  4. Diogenes Avatar
    Diogenes

    Tom, I honestly don’t recognise your characterisation of state employees in these circumstances. My daughter died last year and whilst the NHS was spectacularly unhelpful, individually people working for the state couldn’t have been more understanding or sympathetic. Perhaps because an 8-year old has no national insurance or social security number to clutter up their systems.
    The police, the Coroner, teachers, the Registrar, the GP even the Vicar(does he count as state sector?) all helped to restore my faith in humanity when I was at my lowest ebb. It saddens me that you have been confronted by less understanding people.
    Can I add my condolences to the others. I for one will never tire of reading the inspiring things you write about Mrs P.

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  5. Moggsy Avatar

    Georg Washington said of Government “…it is a force; like fire, a troublesome servant and a fearful master. Never for a moment should it be left to irresponsible action.” He was the head of a government, so he ought to know.
    Tom Pain ^_^ said “Government, even in its best state, is but a necessary evil; in its worst state, an intolerable one.”
    I think you are absolutely right. There can surely be no doubt that the government is not your or my friend. …But it does not necessarily have to be an enemy, provided it remembers it is it is there to serve us the people.
    The threatening tone of the forms seems unnecessary, a business would be criticised for such a thing. Maybe you should write to complain?
    Where you start the post, about the frankly quite sinister British Social Services makes a really good point.
    The courts they use are secret, like star chambers, parents are often forbidden by those same courts from passing on details of what the court gets up to behind closed doors, even to their MPs. So there is no real check on their power.
    They justify it all by saying they are protecting children, but can they really be trusted?
    There seems to be a (scary if you think about it) laziness about the British state that makes it try to treat people as guilty until proven innocent. That is so continental and so against the Anglo way of doing stuff.
    Like you can now be prosecuted for not telling them that your vehicle is off the road. You need to pay a special vehicle tax if it is to be allowed on a public highway. It used to be if you didn’t pay that tax they had to prove you had taken your vehicle on a road. So much easier now.. for them, a little more bother and a little less liberty for the citizen.
    To be fair tho I think if a state employee is an ass or not depends more on their personality and how the interaction goes.

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  6. Tom Paine Avatar

    I mostly agree, but don’t think your last point is fair. There’s a (probably apocryphal story) that when McDonalds trained the staff of their first post-Soviet store in Moscow, they were surprised that the trainees asked so few questions. Pressed to ask something, one raised his hand and said “Why do we have to be so nice to them, when we have all the hamburgers?”
    If put into a position where our customer has no choice, will we maintain our standard of civility? I suspect that more of us hope so than would actually succeed. Public employees are not more rude and arrogant because bad people choose public service. It’s because they have the massive force of the state behind them – and people in front of them who have no choice but to be there.

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  7. Tom Paine Avatar

    I am pleased to hear it, though sorry beyond words to hear the cause of it. Thank you for your comment.

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  8. rahe Avatar
    rahe

    Gentlewoman. Mrs P’s occupation was gentlewoman. And please be assured of my sincere condolences for your loss.

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  9. Moggsy Avatar
    Moggsy

    Some public servants I have dealt with have been helpful and considerate and polite, others had all the hamburgers and maybe didn’t feel the need.
    I figure it does depend on the person and maybe what sort of day they had. It shouldn’t maybe…
    Just saying they are not all bad and maybe those that fall short are a tell that the system is at fault.

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  10. Tom Paine Avatar

    I agree. That’s what should have been written. Had I been on top form, I would have insisted upon it. Thank you.

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  11. Tom Paine Avatar

    I am not saying any of them are bad (or at least any greater proportion of them than in the general population). I am precisely saying that the way they behave is just such a ‘tell’. I think we are more or less agreeing, but thank you for helping me clarify.

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  12. Moggsy Avatar
    Moggsy

    No problem …

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Tom is a retired international lawyer. He was a partner in a City of London law firm and spent almost twenty years abroad serving clients from all over the world.

Returning to London on retirement in 2011, he was dismayed to discover how much liberty had been lost in the UK while he was away.

He’s a classical liberal (libertarian, if you must) who, like his illustrious namesake, considers that

“…government even in its best state is but a necessary evil; in its worst state an intolerable one.”

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